The morning after Father’s day I read a post put on Facebook by my own son. I thought it was very inspiring and wanted to share with you. So enjoy this very special message by Ross Forte.
I have seen a lot of people post today about not having a relationship with their father. In the subtitle of these posts I could feel a lot of pain and hurt, and sometimes even resentment. And it tears me apart to see this.
Up until 3 months ago, I had no relationship with my father. I had shut him out, with no way of getting back in.
I was carrying so much hurt, so much pain, resentment, and even blamed him for the results in my life.
The results of trying so hard to become something, instead of just BEing. The results of wrecked relationships. Financial problems, moving all the time, you name it.
I could always hear his voice in my head telling me I was a slacker, or a piece of shit, or, a lot worse.
I was playing victim. And oh was it hard to realize that. I was holding all this pain and grief inside of me and it was like a cancer, spreading through my body. Holding me back. Instead of realizing that I was 27 years old and had a CHOICE.
Three months ago I called my dad and spilled my heart out to him. Opened up about the struggles I was going through, asked him to accept me unconditionally for who I am, and most importantly….
I forgave him.
And then I told him how much I loved him.
And we both cried on the phone. Because men who want amazing relationships feel their emotions and process them instead of stuffing them down.
After I opened up with him he did the same. We connected in a way that I couldn’t have imagined in my wildest dreams.
Today I called him on Father’s Day. We chatted maybe 10 minutes, our relationship still isn’t amazing, but we are working on it. And I know it meant the world to him.
Because last year I didn’t call.
So if you read this post, my call to action for you is to go open up and have that conversation with that person in your life who you resent. And then, forgive them.
Imagine the possibility of not worrying about outcomes, and being happy with the action and experience you create.
Everyone has pain. No one talks about it. The best way to repair relationships is by being extremely vulnerable and forgiving.
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Thank you, Ross, for sharing your heart. And for teaching us to take responsibility for our choices in life. And for encouraging us to find strength and freedom in forgiveness.